Twins are always being compared to each other. More than regular siblings. How can they not be? They sit, sleep, eat, play, go and do everything together. No one ever sees just one baby. So visitors and even family members are constantly comparing the two. First thing they notice? Amelia is three pounds bigger. So strangers often think she is a boy. Even when she is dressed in all pink with a bow on her head. But because she is bigger than Josephine, without fail they think she is a boy. I literally had this conversation in the grocery store on Saturday:
Highly Perfumed Old Lady: "Awww, twins!"
HPOL: "A boy and a girl?"
Me: "No. Two girls."
My grandpa said I should have responded by telling her I didn't know because I'd never changed their diapers. It has lead to some unfortunate nicknames for Millie invented by my brothers. The thing is, Amelia isn't that big. She's in the 20%. Josephine is just extraordinarily tiny. I mean, we'll be lucky if she's 12 lbs. at her 6 month appointment. She's not on the charts yet - less than 1%. So anybody next to Jo looks huge.
I'm getting really defensive about this. People do start getting more sensitive with their comments when they know the child can understand them, right? Its hard enough to raise a girl in this world with a strong self image without her thinking she's not the pretty twin. Someday soon some poor sap is going to innocently ask me if my twins are a boy and a girl, and will receive a knuckle sandwich. Grrr...
Come on, with long black curly lashes, rosy sweet cheeks, big beautiful eyes, and feminine little coos, how could she be anything but a little girl?