I understand why most people, why most adults, tend to overlook Josephine when they are with all my girls. She is a bit stand-offish, and doesn't understand why society expects her to engage. She's always had a miniature adult body, none of the baby proportions that endear adults to little ones, that make them want to squish their cheeks. No knuckles-pits or chubby legs. She has always had a grown-up face, just small proportions.
She cries a lot, she is demanding. She is obsessive. People rarely recognize it when she invites them into her world. She can be so obnoxious when she's having a fit, her teacher told me her classmates will bring her monkeys whenever she even starts crying.
So, yeah, I get why her sisters get a lot more attention everywhere we go. Hazel and Millie are engaging and outgoing. But that doesn't mean that Jo doesn't feel it or see it when she gets overlooked. I've mentioned before how much praise Amelia gets for her long hair, dark eye lashes, her apple cheeks. What makes me angry is when others don't turn around and tell Jo how lovely she is. She is lovely, she has these long, white limbs and enviable, Lady Mary skin. I adore my Empress Josephine. But my compliments don't go that far. I can tell her all day long she is as beautiful as her sister, but eventually it becomes white noise, and all that effort undone when someone praises Amelia and totally ignores Jo.
Oy. It's hard raising girls to have good self esteem, especially when I feel like I'm fighting against all our culture and society. It requires vigilance to promote and find the good in the world that will benefit my girls, so much of media and society tries to tear down.